"My response to the “I am not a feminist” internet phenomenon….
First of all, it’s clear you don’t know what feminism is. But I’m not going to explain it to you. You can google it. To quote an old friend, “I’m not the feminist babysitter.”
But here is what I think you should know.
You’re insulting every woman who was forcibly restrained in a jail cell with a feeding tube down her throat for your right to vote, less than 100 years ago.
You’re degrading every woman who has accessed a rape crisis center, which wouldn’t exist without the feminist movement.
You’re undermining every woman who fought to make marital rape a crime (it was legal until 1993).
You’re spitting on the legacy of every woman who fought for women to be allowed to own property (1848). For the abolition of slavery and the rise of the labor union. For the right to divorce. For women to be allowed to have access to birth control (Comstock laws). For middle and upper class women to be allowed to work outside the home (poor women have always worked outside the home). To make domestic violence a crime in the US (It is very much legal in many parts of the world). To make workplace sexual harassment a crime.
In short, you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice.
In short, kiss my ass, you ignorant little jerks.”
Because if it is true, what they’ve done is taken a major POV chapter female character from the books and erased her and given her role to a male FOR LITERALLY NO REASON. WHAT IS THE REASON? WHY ARE THEY DOING THIS? HOW DOES IT BENEFIT THE SHOW AND THE STORY TO TAKE AWAY ARIANNE’S STORY AND GIVE IT TO A DUDE? THERE IS NO REASON THERE’S NOT ONE REASON
and like if that wasn’t bad enough, so much of the point of bringing in Dorne and the Dornish characters is to show how differently they view and treat women within the medieval hell that is Westeros. It’s the only kingdom that doesn’t practice primogeniture and has a history of female rulers (for example, Doran and Oberyn’s mother, not their father, ruled in Dorne. BUT WHEN THEY THREW A THROWAWAY REFERENCE TO DORNE’S PREVIOUS RULER IN THE SHOW, THEY CHANGED IT TO A MAN LIKE LMAO WOW D&D DID WOULD IT REALLY FUCKING KILL YOU TO MENTION A RULING PRINCESS DON’T LET THE DOOR HIT YOUR BASIC ASS ON THE WAY OUT). The whole fucking kingdom was founded by a woman. It serves as a way to show that the misogyny is Westeros is not the norm, but a choice and that it’s not like that everywhere. It’s easy for the reader to be like ‘okay, this is a medieval-based world, of course women aren’t going to rule’, but Dorne just existing the way it does throws that completely out of the window and it’s REALLY IMPORTANT.
And like a concept so central to the asoiaf series is shining a light on how misogynistic the fantasy genre itself often is, how female characters are underdeveloped or token ‘sorceress’ villains or two-dimensional love interests. It shows through example how authors have the choice to write dynamic roles for women in a fantasy setting but just choose not to and blame it on the standard within their world? like YOU WROTE THIS WORLD. YOU INVENTED IT. YOU HAVE MADE UP THE CUSTOMS AND TRADITIONS OF THIS WORLD AND WILLINGLY CHOSEN TO NOT INCLUDE WOMEN IN THAT OR SHOW HOW THEY CAN STILL HAVE STORYLINES AND CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT IN A SETTING THAT SUFFOCATES THEM
And like by choosing FOR NO REASON (!!!!!!!!!!!!) to TAKE AWAY a female character like Arianne - who is sexual, who owns her sexuality, who uses it as a weapon, who was raised to rule, who is confident in her power, who is in cahoots with her girl gang cousins (who are all powerful in their own ways, who all identify their femininity differently and use it as a tool differently) to STAGE A COUP AND PUT A FEMALE ON A THRONE OF THE ENTIRE SEVEN KINGDOMS BY USING THE VERY LAWS OF DORNE THAT GIVE HER POWER is honestly just so fucking offensive. And stupid. And throwing one of the key tenets of the series back in its face probably because they’ve seen how ”’badass”’ people think Oberyn was and want another ”’badass”’ Dornish character just like him and of course that can’t be a woman!! No woman cool here!! Tough boy make show better!! Go jump off a cliff.
#HONESTLY IF THIS IS TRUE I AM CONSIDERING NOT WATCHING ANYMORE#IT’S JUST HONESTLY A FUCKING FISTFUL OF SAND IN THE FACE#you’re turning the series into the exact grimdark fuckfest the books are satirising#and it’s just so fucking hard to take#and like if they do cut her NEVER FORGIVE how they used#oberyn’s feminism and support of women that he got from being raised in dorne#as a way to make him seem cooler and more progressive#without showing how that’s IN PRACTICE in dorne AND IS A REALLY IMPORTANT PART OF THE POLITICAL CLIMATE THERE#the great satan d&d#*also arianne is a WOMAN OF COLOUR#in a POSITION OF POWER oh my god i can’t believe we’re even talking about having her written out
If a female character kicks ass, she’s overpowered. If a female character can’t defend herself, she’s unnecessary. If a female character acts nice, she’s boring. If a female character acts mean, she’s a bitch. If a female character shows no emotion, she’s heartless. If a female character shows emotion, she’s weak. What can a female character do without being criticized mercilessly?
Maybe she could try being well-written.
oh my god yes of course. SHE, the fictional character almost always written by cishet white men, should try being WELL-WRITTEN!!!!!! god it’s so obvious now!!!! this whole time we were focusing on systematic and internalized misogyny creating unachievably high standards for women while we simultaneously give men a free pass on everything under the sun WHEN IN FACT it was just the character’s fault for not being written better!!!!!!!! whew i’m glad we cleared that up